Women’s 10-Step Guide to a Healthy Libido and a Great Sex Life
This post was last updated on January 16th, 2024
Age, health conditions, lack of self-confidence, troublesome relationships, and other factors often take their toll on women’s libido and, implicitly, sex life. Everyone knows the theory about accepting and loving ourselves for who we really are and about choosing our partners carefully.
However, even after following these steps, some women continue to suffer from low sex drive or find themselves unable to enjoy sex as they should? They miss out on the numerous benefits of sex, and their relationships suffer as well.
If you find yourself in this situation, there is good news. You don’t have to give up your dream of having a fulfilling sex life or settle for less than you deserve. All you have to do is take some simple yet essential steps to boost your libido and, with it, your bedroom performances.
10 Steps to Boost Your Libido and Improve Your Sex Life
1. Find the Cause of Your Problems and Take Measures to Eliminate It
Your low libido is the result of another problem. It could be physical, health-related, or psychological. Perhaps you suffer from hormonal imbalance, you are pregnant, or approaching menopause. Perhaps your self-esteem is low, you are in a relationship with the wrong person, or that person has yet to find your buttons.
Only you can get to the bottom of whatever is causing your problem and eliminate it. To succeed, you may need medical evaluations and specialized treatment, some one-on-one sessions with your partner, or just time to review your situation and identify more effective strategies and better opportunities. The bottom line is that you can’t fix anything until you figure out what’s broken.
2. Embrace a Healthy Lifestyle
Believe it or not, your diet and exercise regimen, the environment you live in, and your daily routine matter. If you don’t eat right, don’t exercise enough, or don’t get enough sleep, finding the energy and mood for sex will be a challenge. Moreover, a poor diet, a sedentary lifestyle, and lack of sleep will negatively impact your health.
3. Eliminate Stress
Although sex is a great stress-reliever, it is difficult to get in the mood for it when you are stressed or worried about something. Therefore, take measures to relieve stress and relax. It will be up to you to figure out what helps the most.
Some people find stress relief in exercising, others in music. Massage, yoga, breathing techniques, reading, gardening, essential oils, and long bathtubs help others. You can try several remedies until you figure out what works best in your particular set.
4. Introduce Aphrodisiac Foods and Drinks in Your Diet
Just like oysters and celery are supposed to work miracles on men’s sex drive and performance, there are foods and drinks that can help women. The most effective examples include dark chocolate, warm spices (cinnamon, pepper), fenugreek seeds, exotic fruits (dates), herbal teas (Shatavari).
Besides acting as an aphrodisiac, a glass of fine wine or champagne can help you get comfortable and get rid of your inhibitions. Just don’t exaggerate because consumed in high quantities, alcohol can have the opposite effect to what you are looking for.
5. Take Supplements
As you may have realized, the processed foods in your diet and your chaotic meal schedule are depriving your body of essential minerals and vitamins. Some deficiencies have been linked to low libido, fatigue, hormone imbalances, and vaginal dryness.
It goes without saying that eliminating deficiencies could make your sex life problems go away. There are safe and effective supplements that you can take to increase blood flow in your erogenous zones and boost your libido. The best part is that they have no side effects.
6. Create the Proper Setting
Perhaps you do not realize it, but the environment you are trying to have sex in plays an important part in the experience as well. Some people do not feel comfortable in a messy room. Others find it difficult to enjoy themselves knowing that the kids or a roommate may walk in on them (there are some who would find the perspective inciting, though).
Similarly, some settings favor intimacy more than others. Depending on your preferences, dim lights or candles, background music, a romantic restaurant or a wild party can work miracles on your sex drive. Of course, it is up to you to experiment and see what works best in your case.
7. Decide That You Want to Get Sex
Sometimes, the problem lies not with your body but with your mind. Sure, the desire to have sex should come naturally. However, sometimes, we get so comfortable and used to not having sex that we forget to appreciate the experience. It takes a little determination to step out of this faulty mindset and into the right one.
Sex has numerous health benefits and is very important for your relationship, for your pleasure and your partner’s. If you decide that you should engage in it and try your best to enjoy it, chances are you will. Therefore, don’t wait for your partner to come begging, be proactive. Don’t wait to feel the need to rip your clothes off, take them off or ask your partner to do it.
8. Don’t Neglect Prelude
Women need hugs, touching, and caressing more than men. Without them, they have a hard time enjoying sex and reaching orgasm. Do not be afraid to slow down your partner if you have to, ask for a massage, or join him in the shower or the hot tub if that’s what it takes to get you started. Those couple of minutes can make a huge difference for both of you.
9. Use Lubricants
Lubricants are the quick fix to vaginal dryness. Some of them even enhance pleasure. Why struggle when there is a better way? Whether you prefer oils, creams, or gels, make sure you’re ready for him when the time comes!
10. Don’t Settle for the Act Itself
Some women see sex as a duty. They do not actually enjoy it. Some sex is better than none, but not enjoying something that could bring you immense pleasure and satisfaction is not. Sure, perhaps you don’t reach orgasm all the time, or perhaps it takes a little work. However, the effort is worth it.
Therefore, find out what you like and share your findings with your partner. Your orgasms are an ode to his manhood, so they will not hesitate to follow your suggestions. The pleasure will drive you closer to one another, boost your libido, and improve your sex life naturally.
Dani Fogel. is a Communication Coordinator at Brandable, based in Los Angeles, CA. She works on the Queen V brand within the company’s Digital and Ecommerce department.
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