Why Being a Decent Man in India is Real Tough?

Yeah it’s true that men should take a stand in our nation for women protection, their rights, what they deserve and their self-respect. But this huge wave of feminism and women empowerment seems to be earmarking men instead of enlivening women. It doesn’t mean that India doesn’t need feminism but it also shouldn’t hurt to acceptance of the fact that for men it’s not easy either, especially in India. I have rounded up some facts and reasons why it’s real hardest for being men in India, once you scrutinize the reasons, you will get to know what I am trying to highlight to you people.

1. Every Man is a Rapist

According to our Indian’s mindset, almost every man in India is recognized as a potential rapist. Believe it or not!! Everyone knows India is totally unsafe for women but how much justified is it to comprehend all of men as molesters? Being a woman, I know there are some men who genuinely come forward and take a stand to help us. Not all men look at a woman with the intention of molesting or raping her. Yes, I do admit there are some idiotic men who are rapists but there are a lot of men who not only respect women but also take a stand for them in the time of need. I think crime is accepted as a synonym to being a man.

2. Men don’t Cry

If you’re a man that even an Indian man it’s total worse for you. Men’s tear glands are expected to be dysfunctional. Remember an old dialogue of Hindi cinema, “Mard ko dard nahi hota”? Men are apparently not supposed to cry or express any other emotion as that makes them less of a man. They are assumed they are weak if they cry, but why we people forget that they are human too!!

3. A Gay Man is not a Man

Men those love to talk or go for shopping or singing, dancing or painting, are not considered as straight man. The real identification of being a man in India is having the ability to change the tyres or fighting bad people without getting a scratch. And if a man is gay then he is considered as a disgrace to ‘man’kind.

4. Men should be successful

Men keep stressing over how women are materialized by them all their lives, but sometimes people forget to observe how a man is minimized to an only price tag when it comes to marriages. Every man’s capability to be a life partner is recognized only on the basis of the car he drives, the brands he buys and wears, the amazing grand house he owns and the thickness of his wallet. It doesn’t matters really how decent and honest you are as a man, if you’re not wealthy and you’re not ‘marriage-material’.

5. Man needs to Earn

Talking about cars and houses, all men need to have these by the time they enter their late twenties. If not, what are the bride’s parents going to think of you? Settling down and being established is not a choice, it’s a necessity for every man.

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6. Men should not be less than a Woman financially

For settling down men have to earn a lot more than your wife. Yeah, if stalking your wife process wasn’t enough, there is an undue thrust of competing with your wife’s salary and winning anyhow. Actually no one cares if men are satisfied with what they already have, because you’re a man, and a man needs to earn more than his spouse. If a wife is more successful than her husband, it is nothing to be proud of. It is something to be ashamed of.

7. Men have no dreams

A man is always considered as the fender. They are just nor allowed to take risks, pursue their dreams and accept jobs that do not observe to conventions, as they are presumed to be the bread winners. Women always have the freedom to evacuate their desk jobs and take job risks by initiating her own boutique or a café as the house is managed financially on her husband’s salary. But when a man wishes to be a travel photographer, or opt for a job that doesn’t supports regular income, it’s totally unacceptable and inadmissible for him to depend on his wife’s income.

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8. Men are the Responsibility holders

Male child are always supposed to look after their parents once they grow old. But, is it only the responsibility of men not for women? If according to modern society, men and women are considered equal and not discriminated on the basis of gender, then it should be both male and female child responsibility to look after their parents. Like men, women should voluntarily take the responsibility of their parents too.

9. Men are the Saviors

All men in our society are supposed to be the protectors, by default. They are taught to protect the women around them all their lives, almost put them on a pedestal. And if men fail to do this, they are not worthy to be men. Protecting a woman is the man’s job and responsibility. This process is not only an unnecessary pressure on men to be saviors but also it weakens the dignity of a woman in the society instead of empowering them.

10. Men need to respect, rather being respected

Men are always considered as a forgotten gender but also the most misunderstood gender. If a man don’t pull a chair for a woman, he is rude. If he does, he is assumed as sexist. If a girl dumps a man, the man is a loser. If a man dumps a woman, then the man is a douchebag or you can say a jerk. Somehow, men are often criticized as the wrong-doers and women are always the victims. Some men do pull chairs, pay the bill only because they want to make women feel special and they respect women, not because they think they are more powerful than women. But, it’s very sad to know that it is never accepted in the right spirit.

11. Men are the all-time Criminals

Today feminism is all time high in our nation, thousands of innocent men are the victims and falling prey to false allegations. In fact most of the rape and dowry cases which are filed in India are false to let you know. But the media never covers and talks about the increasing crimes against men in India. Crime has no gender, to be true. And not every man is a rapist or a molester and every woman is a victim. But this is something like people’s mindset in our country that seems never to be changed.

Sadly, the sudden and consistent overdose of feminism has left most genuine and noble men completely confused, as they are being suspected for their intentions every time, even when they are the honest and decent ones.

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