When to Break Up?

The decision to break up is rarely dictated by the unquestioning conviction that it’s time to end it all. Much more often we are accompanied by hesitation and painful dilemmas.

The reason for breaking up should certainly not be the first serious difficulties. Nowadays people prefer to break up with each other than to work on what needs improvement. By taking the easy way, they deprive themselves of the possibility of experiencing the happiness of joint overcoming obstacles and emotional tuning to the needs and expectations of the other person. In some cases, however, all attempts to repair the relationship seem doomed to failure. When is it better to say “I’ve had enough”?

Do not succumb to illusions

Contrary to what movies suggest, there are no ideals. In every relationship something grinds, there are always reasons for quarrels and misunderstandings. In fact, a conflict-free relationship would lead to a suspicion that both partners would not be involved. In the face of unavoidable conflicts, one should not be under the illusion that perhaps someone is waiting somewhere out there with whom we would not argue and who would understand us. The ground is to be able to put yourself in the place of your partner and look at the existing conflict from his perspective. This is the key to resolving any disputes arising from the difference in expectations.

For a relationship to bring satisfaction to both people, it doesn’t have to be “ideal”. However, there are things that condition the possibility of obtaining it. Below we will focus on each of them.

Do you have a common vision of the future?

To create a good relationship, you must want the same and have a common vision of the future. It will be difficult to get along if you want to have children and he will not. Or if the purpose of his life is unlimited consumption, and yours – non-material values. The source of conflicts may also be the relationship to side romances – what if a polyamor becomes associated with a person for whom “polygamy” is a thoroughly bizarre phenomenon? Permission is important for essential matters.

Are you open to each other?

Being open is also extremely important in building a satisfying love relationship. If you can’t be honest with yourself, lie to one another or conceal important matters that require discussion, it doesn’t bode well for your relationship. Emotional closeness is created thanks to sincere conversations.

How do you solve conflicts?

Conflicts, as we have already mentioned, are an inseparable part of any closer relationship. But the way you solve them says a lot about whether the relationship has a future or not. If you constantly argue about the same and over time you develop a strategy to avoid this topic, although the problem does not disappear, it is worth considering whether it makes sense in the long run.

Do you have any doubts whether it is worth continuing the relationship you are in? Answer yourself for the questions above and think about whether the repairs require any views for change. We often prefer to cheat, rather than face cruel truth, but in this way we only make ourselves unhappy.

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