7 Ways To Explore Your Sexuality While In A Relationship

Finding the one is a huge milestone, making it even harder to consider exploring your sexuality. But, don’t worry—there’s no need to stop trying new things after getting into a committed relationship. In fact, exploring your sexual preferences with your partner can bring you closer together and improve your sex life in the long run. 

Here are some tips to help you dig deeper into your sexuality while in a relationship:

1. Know What’s Normal

Sex is a normal part of life, and it’s important to know that you’re not alone in feeling a desire to explore your sexuality. Many people have fantasies about other people or things they’d like to do in the bedroom. It’s common for partners to want to try new things as they grow together and become more comfortable with each other.

2. Find Sex-Positive Media 

Sex-positive media, including platforms like Escape Vanilla, are a great way to learn more about your sexuality and how you want to express it. This can also help you understand your own desires, as well as learn how to be better at communicating with your partner.

While there are plenty of sex-positive movies and TV shows, you could also check out some podcasts for enlightening conversations about sex and relationships from both an educational perspective and a comedic one.

3. Learn To Communicate 

You can learn much about your sexuality by listening to your partner and vice versa. Take time to talk to your partner about what you like and don’t like in bed, or other areas of intimacy. Ask for what you want from them, and be open to compromise if they want something different from what you like.

Talk about how you feel. If something specific is bothering you about how your partner treats you sexually (or any other area), address it directly instead of waiting for things to escalate into an argument.

4. Try New Things 

One of the best ways to explore your sexuality while in a relationship is by trying new things in the bedroom. You should always be open to new experiences, including exploring your sexual side outside of what’s comfortable for you.

Try something new every week. This can include anything from trying something that you’ve always wanted, or even something like role-playing or incorporating toys into the mix. Even if it doesn’t work out perfectly, at least you know what not to do next time.

Sexual exploration can be especially important in relationships because it helps couples feel closer and gives them more ways to enjoy each other’s company.

5. Explore Your Fantasies Together

It’s important that you and your partner are on the same page when it comes to what you want in bed. You should be able to share your fantasies, ask questions, and explore each other’s desires. While it can initially feel awkward, communicating about sex is an excellent way for you to learn more about each other’s preferences.

Try asking questions like:

• What do you like most about our sex life?
• What could be improved?
• Do you have any fantasies or kinks that we haven’t explored yet?

6. Learn More About Your Body 

When exploring your sexuality, your body is your best teacher. It could be the most reliable and accurate way to learn about yourself. If you’re having difficulty learning more about your sexuality, use the bedroom as a tool for self-exploration.

What do you like?  What do you not like?  How does it feel when someone touches or kisses you in certain places?  What about when they touch those places with their mouth?  Is there anything else that turns you on that isn’t necessarily sexual?

Once you’re comfortable with your bodies, you can begin to explore them during sex play with your partner.

7. Let Go Of Your Insecurities

It’s important to feel comfortable with your body and your sexuality. If you don’t love your body, it can be difficult to explore new things. Don’t be afraid to ask for what you want or say no if something doesn’t feel right. It’s also important to look past just the physical side of things. Try talking about fantasies and desires, as well as making sure that everyone is having fun in a healthy way.

It’s common for people who are new at sex to get nervous about how they look and whether their partner will enjoy the experience as much as they do. However, once someone gets over these hurdles, then experimentation becomes easier—and more fun.

Don’t worry too much about what other people think; instead, focus on learning from others who’ve been there before. That way, you can all get better at exploring your sexualities together.

Last But Not Least

The last thing to remember is to never compare yourself to other people. Don’t compare yourself to your partner. Don’t compare yourself to your past self. Don’t compare yourself to your partner’s exes. Just remember, there’s no pressure!  Enjoy your relationship with your partner, and everything else, sexually, will flow.