The Art of Correct Upbringing

All parents try to bring up kind, happy, and successful children. They think that their children are the best, and they are right. However, upbringing is a complicated and time-consuming process that demands much effort. Not everybody knows how to bring up their children correctly. Some parents rely on their knowledge and skills; others are intent on the sample of their upbringing. Both of them make mistakes and it is normal because they do not have enough experience. Now we have numerous sources that can help us to be good parents. Some parents see films about upbringing. Others read useful books laying on a comfortable Loom and Leaf Mattress. Third ones take part in special training.

First of all, all parents must know 5 most important rules.

1. Prohibition means prohibition

You need to be strict in your intentions. If this action or that candy is forbidden, children should understand this. But often they can manipulate by crying or shouting. Then a mother or a father becomes kinder and allows everything. These tactics will bring only negative consequences. You need to stand your ground.

2. Only one thought of adults in a family

One more popular mistake when a father forbids, but a mother allows. Children adapt their behavior in relation to parents and start to make use of it. Parents must agree all thoughts, models, and rules of upbringing together.

3. No arguments

Of course, all have some problems and conflicts, but it is not a good idea to argue in the presence of children. When kids see parents arguing and shouting at each other, they think that it is correct. After that, they do the same.

4. Harmony in a family

A child is like a mirror reflects the atmosphere and general situation in the family. In addition, quarrels, a rigorous condition in the family influence the mental health of children.

5. No comparisons

It is a very big mistake when parents compare their child with others especially in teenage years. Children conceive it sickly. As a result, they have a low self-esteem in the future.

Modern pedagogy teaches parents to conceive a child like an adequate member of society. Parents and children should trust each other and agree. However, there is another situation in practice. There are some tips that can be helpful for all parents.

1. Set your rules and demands correctly.

Usually, parents just say: “Don’t do, don’t go”. Kids do not understand such instructions. They need specifics to realize what parents want from them.

2. Leave your failures and troubles beyond your family.

Often adults irritate and go off on their offspring. It is inadequate. Children respond to the emotional state of the parents.  

3. Say correct words of criticism.

Do not shout at your child, do not call bad names, just explain why you are angry at a child. It will be much more effective than your caps lock voice.

4. Be close to your children.

Do not look for causes for kisses and hugs. Kids should always feel your love and support. In this case, they will trust you.  

5. Believe in good intentions of your children.

They can do something wrong not because of their desire but because of inexperience and ignorance. It is better to help them and explain how to do.

6. Develop thinking of your kid.

Let him or her opportunity to consider and decide by himself or herself. Self-analysis is an extremely powerful and necessary weapon.

7. Spend more time with your little beloved.

Obviously, you have a lot of work and many things to do. However, time with your children is priceless. Play a board game on Loom and Leaf Mattress, go to the swimming pool or just organize an interesting concert together. Any activity with your children will bring you and the fun, love, and happiness. Children will be grateful for that because they need you so much.

8. Encourage your children.

Praise is an excellent motivation for all kids. So, do not hurry to punish and criticize them. It is as easy as ABC. Try to notice good results and their effort. Be sure, after encouraging they will do more and better next time.

9. Teach children to be independent.

Let your child do something by himself with your control, of course, but by himself. In such way, you will prepare your offspring to adulthood.

10. Love your children as they are.

Let them behave naturally. Show that you love them under any circumstances.

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11. Do sport together.

First of all, it is time together. As well, the sport will teach your child to be strong and patient. Moreover, physical activities will strengthen the body and make your children healthier.

12. Let children make a choice.

This is an essential component of a successful upbringing. Children should decide what hobby they want to take up or what piece of clothes to choose for this or that occasion. In such a way, children will learn to have their own view, analyze and accept a decision.

13. Read books with them and for them.

A book is a perfect way to spend time together and to learn new things. Books will help kids to imagine, think, and analyze. Books can teach to feel together with characters.

Parents should understand that the children’s world is different from the world of adults. So, it is necessary for adults to find a special approach to their offspring. Kids often live in fairy tales with their favorite heroes and exciting plots. It is significant not to destroy this magic. It is better to become a part of this wonderful childish atmosphere. Then these little people will believe you and start loving and trusting you.

All parents must know this English saying: “Do not bring up your children. All the same, they will look like you. Bring up yourself”. It is absolutely true because kids watch their parents and do the same. They copy all their actions, words, and even feelings. So, if your child is naughty and does harm, have a look at yourself first.