10 Questions You Must Ask Yourself Before Getting Married

Getting married is the most important decision of your life. If you are planning to get married getting overwhelmed by emotions in the heat of the moment, and planning about the guest list and your beautiful wedding dress, then you should definitely ask few questions to yourself. People who usually decide to get tied in a knot, jumping over the decision because they feel that loving someone deeply is most crucial reason to get hitched or they prefer getting married over leading a lonely life. Marriage is not just about love, happiness and sex, it’s a commitment that you have to do to your spouse and yourself too. Hasty decision about marriage, mostly leads you to end up in signing on the dotted line, however, everyone wants their relation to last forever.

Now, if you are still confused about your life, dreams, career and goals but still want to get hitched then, better hold on for a moment, and think again. Here are some crucial and inevitable questions that you should ask yourself before getting hitched. And if you get even 20% of your answers on a negative spectrum, then you should probably take some time and think again, as life is way too precious to regret later over any wrong decision.

1. Am I ready for this Marriage?

It’s high time to be true and honest with yourself. Find out, if you are really ready and prepared mentally and emotionally for this huge step. Your mind should be doubt free before getting into a commitment or a wedded relationship, as none of us wants to be full of questions, ifs, whethers, whats rather being joyful and content before getting married. If your mind still dwells on any doubts then better back off and put your marriage planning on hold. City hall will always be there, but not your youth.

2. Is this the right time to tie a knot?

If you have some career plans or goals in your life but still you are ready to sacrifice all your ambitions for the sake of your parents and love, then you are on the wrong track. If you can’t be happy then you can’t keep your spouse happy. Marriage is not only based on love and commitment rather it needs responsibility and courage. If you will miss your goal or career someday, then your marriage may get into a trouble.

3. Is this what you want?

Ask this question at least 10 times a day.  You will definitely find the right answer. Don’t think about other’s expectations, go for that thing which really makes you happy and content, once you get that satisfaction, you can go ahead with your marriage plans.

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4. What are the reasons of getting married?

Yeah, count on the reasons why you want to get tied in a knot. Is marriage necessary for you? Is your selected partner is the one with whom you can spend your whole life? Will you be really happy with your partner? Are you getting married as everyone wants you to be? If you get all these answers in a negative aspect, then you should better stop about planning to get hitched.

5. Does my partner have any red flags that I might be ignoring?

If you think that your partner is still confused about marriage or he has got any bad habits that you think will get vanished after getting married and he/she will become responsible after tying knot, then you probably doing a mistake. These things are the signs that, you should better pause on your wedding plans.

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6. Can I give my first priority to this person?

You are career oriented and you want to be successful in the field you excel. But getting married to person means giving your first priority to your spouse. Are you ready to do this? Can you choose your spouse over your career or dreams or goals? If “NO”, better back off. You need some time.

7. Will this person support my dreams?

Now, the last thing you want to do is marrying someone who doesn’t even support your goals and dreams. Is this you want? Make sure that whomever you marry will back you in thick and thin, no matter how crazy your ambitions and goals are.

8. Am I mentally ready for having kids in 1 year of marriage?

Well, expectations are limitless. When you are single, your parents and relatives expect you to get married soon, once you get married they expect you to have four to five kids running and howling all around your home. Well, no one ever wants to have kids soon after marriage. But, there are 70% chances from your in-laws or parents or even spouse to have a baby. So, if this thought gives you fever, then step back and take some time.

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9. Can I read the marriage vows honestly?

The most truthful segment of a marriage is taking serious and honest vows. If you can’t take it and do it honestly, then, think about it again, because life is hard and not a bed of roses.

10. Do I deserve better than this?

This might be little harsh for you, but marriage is something a big and huge life decision which should be based on truth and honesty. Ask your friends, your mentors, experienced persons or yourself as no one else knows you better than yourself, that do you deserve much better than this? Don’t settle for average when God has something better and outstanding plans for you.

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