Questions to Ask a Girl to Create Interest

Girls love laughing, and asking the wrong questions does not put a smile on their faces. Additionally, there are certain conversational cues necessary to keep her interested. If you just began dating a girl and are trying to create rapport, and maintain interest, be careful how you communicate. It can send her packing as soon as she has a chance. Alternatively, the right questions will keep her intrigued and yearning to know more about you. 

Building Rapport 

Ask a lady about herself more than you talk about you. It is rarely awkward if you focus on her needs, not yours. Whether you are dating the girl next door, or are getting cozy while dating with a widow, the same applies; keep things unique and exciting. 

Likes and Dislikes 

Query what she likes and her pet peeves too. While dating a widow, she will have things that piss her off, stemming from past relationships. Keep these in mind while engaging her, inquiring deeper if still unsure. It is better to ask than to find out the hard way. A widow has plenty she needs taken care of, after losing her partner. It is your onus to find out her needs. 

Her Past

One needs to tread carefully on this one. If you need to learn her past, begin with good stories. Inquire about childhood, regardless of her age. The conversation will end up with her getting widowed and becoming single again. This is where your relationship begins and knowing her past helps gauge her requirements of you. If you are indeed dating a widow, understanding when she encountered her loss is crucial to you being a better partner. 

Secrets 

Reveal a few secrets, whichever one isn’t worth losing a friendship over. She might reciprocate this openness. It helps build trust and opens up room for more interest. She will be intrigued to know more about you. Words of caution; do not bring up morbid or sinister stories just yet. Stick to funny stuff, perhaps some escapades during early childhood, where you managed to pee on yourself. These stories keep her laughing, regardless of her age. 

Family 

Always inquire about family; be it, siblings, parents, relatives like cousins or indeed nephews and nieces. Anything to keep the focus on her family will raise eyebrows, in a good way. She will want to share about everyone from dad, to grandpa, mom to grandma, and of course brothers and sisters. If you are genuine in your inquiry, she might begin introducing you to the entire extended family. Asking about her family can never go wrong, and if it does, it could be that there are unresolved issues. If she is indeed widowed, asking about family might leave her nostalgic for happy days. 

Future Plans 

Asking about plans at the beginning of a relationship can scare someone away. However, as you meet often, and the relationship grows, this is the best question yet: What are your plans? She will immediately answer, directly or indirectly, as to where you fall. If there is room for you in her future, you will know. Any suggestions while dating a widow that she wants to settle down again is a challenge for you. It might be time to take up that space. Plans should be known from the onset if possible. Knowing these details can help save time and heartbreak earlier in a relationship. 

These questions are only the tip of the iceberg and other queries can be made depending on specific relationships. Either way, making queries puts plenty in perspective, particularly how or where you fit into one’s future.