20 Things To Keep In Mind Before Losing Virginity
This post was last updated on April 28th, 2024
Having sex for the first time, the excitement may be overpowering and overwhelming. Even the smallest of worries can seem way too scarier when it’s a first experience.
That’s obvious everyone’s first time is going to be different and unexpected as it is a nerve-wracking experience until you’ve actually had an intercourse between the sheets, the world of sex can seem both engaging and exciting. There are few things about losing virginity to know in order to clarify your small little doubts and fears that hold you back from having sex giving you stress and anxiety.
If you’re super excited about your first session, here are a few things you should know before you take the ride.
1. Sex for first-time hurts, but not painful
Yes, losing it for first time really hurts, but is not that painful, you have assumed in your mind. When the thin skin or membrane of vagina or penis breaks it hurts little but gradually becomes fine and smooth.
2. It bleeds, but not necessarily
Some girls and guys bleed when they lose virginity, but some are there who don’t even feel the pain and get bleed. Some bleed really bad and some get it totally clean. So, bleeding for first time is not necessarily true.
3. It’s little messy
First-time sex comes with little awkwardness as you get your sheets, your skin all messed with semen, pre-ejaculations. First-time you might feel little uncomfortable going eewwhh! but things get fine gradually and you will become comfortable the next time.
4. Hymen breakage is not only due to sex
Losing virginity is not only due to sex. Masturbation, oral sex, sex toys, horse ride are some activities which result in the breakage of the thin membrane which is elastic in nature.
5. Lubrication is a must
Just, imagine to get a ride on the water slide without water on it! Got yeah! Exactly when you try to insert something thick and solid inside a two centimetre opening, it needs proper lubrication to slide inside easily.
6. Having orgasm is not the goal
First time having sex is a unsure experience where you know many things only after performing it. Try to learn and experience the unknown things and forget about the orgasm.
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7. You might not get orgasm for first time
Getting orgasm for first-time sex is not that easy and mandatory. You might not feel that good as your awkwardness would be holding you back to feel everything transparently.
8. It’s okay to ejaculate early
When you go for the first ever session, your penis is not that matured and strong to hold the exciting feeling which might result in early ejaculation which is totally fine and nothing embarrassing about it.
9. You can get pregnant with the first-time sex
Another most important fact to know about losing virginity for first-time is getting pregnant after first sex is totally possible when someone ejaculates inside you.
10. Condom is essential
Of course, you don’t want to ruin your first exciting experience by later reacting horribly watching your pregnancy kit turning red. To avoid unwanted pregnancy and STDs condom is the most essential tool for better protection.
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11. All porn film factors are not so true
Screaming really loud, beating up ass, and acting like dying are not the real facts about first-time sex. Things are not that bad and awful. You might get little pain but for limited minutes, you might bleed for just few seconds but don’t try to imitate porn factors.
12. Bad sex experience is not bad
Bad experience is also an experience, so take it and accept it. Bad sex experience never dictates your future relationships. You got to learn something which will keep you aware.
13. Your partner is as nervous as you
It’s not only you who is only nervous, you partner might be nervous too. As you both are naked, you are not only one who is feeling awkward.
14. Last minute back-off is totally fine
If you feel like, you can’t do it. Don’t force yourself to get physical or don’t think that doing so might hurt your partner’s feelings. Losing virginity needs your permission from you deep down. Simply back-off if you think it’s not the time and talk about it that you are not ready yet.
15. Be clear what you want
Having sex first-time is a thrilling experience. You don’t know what makes you and your partner feel good. So keep on the communication to let each other know what you want exactly and what makes you feel good.
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16. First time is not always great
First-time is actually not always great. You might lose confidence, you might get stress and anxiety. You might scream a lot or simply deny to have sex.
17. Don’t be stressed if it’s not that great
If your first sex is kind of little awkward then don’t be stressed. It’s totally normal. You got to know what the thing is actually about. You might perform amazingly your next time.
18. Practice makes perfect
Scoring 10 on 10 for first-time is not easy. You will gradually know many things about sex and will master over it as you practice it. That doesn’t mean you will be searching for partner to have sex to practice.
19. Go slow
Having sex for first-time and losing virginity for first needs patience, carefulness and smooth pace. You can’t just hurry in everything or else you might end up hurting each other. So, go slow and smooth.
20. Do it when you’re ready
If you are gearing up about losing virginity then be ready mentally. Don’t think about sex or never pressurize to do it as your partner wants you to do. Ask yourself if you’re ready and go for it when you’re actually ready to do it.
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