Most people believe inner peace is a quest, or a seeking, when in actuality it is the opposite of having to DO anything at all. In contrast, it is learning to just be. For many, this is very difficult because they are trying to fill an internal hole they may or may not be aware is within them. They believe the next achievement, the next relationship, even their next child will fill their emptiness. But we must fill our own cup to overflowing, and then we become a vibrational match to other things that increase our abundance. If we do not already practice unconditional love for ourselves, we will attract more things that magnify the state of lack.
But what does self love even mean? Most of us were not raised in a world where we were taught this. It is not merely acts of self care – in fact, self care is often taken only after periods of prolonged stress and imbalance. Self love is not admiration of only one’s physical beauty, or even one’s “good” qualities, as these are fleeting and variable concepts. Some think pushing themself to achieve a nebulous concept of “greatness” is self love, but this is a moving target, and exhausts internal resources.
The easiest way to begin to understand a concept that is a deep relationship with self begins with self acceptance as a way to self love. It is a stepping stone to help reach the body-mind states of wisdom that come as you practice this daily with realigning your understanding.
What are some ways to do that?
Seek Balance
The Buddhists call this The Middle Way. In all things look for a sense of moderation and flow. This also leads us back to the concept of balance within self acceptance as a way to self love.
Practice Gratitude
It is highly beneficial to psychological well being to practice being thankful every day. It helps to align the focus more on a heart-based outlook rather than overanalyzing and delving too deeply into negativity.
Allowance
Do not block emotions, allow them to pass through and notice what can be learned. Try not to attach meaning to any feeling experienced. Just because someone feels a feeling, it does not make them a certain type of person. We are collective consciousness, experiencing all emotions and all things.
Connection
Practice being connected to all things, not comparing oneself. A good way to do this is through loving kindness meditation and being involved in acts of service in the community.
These steps can make a significant difference in daily life. Through learning self acceptance as a way to self love and refocusing the understanding of self love, a higher level of inner peace can be attained.
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